Amazing that people don’t realize what a differentiator good manners are and a handwritten or personal note really stands out. It makes the recipient remember you and makes them think more highly of you.

I’ve been doing some radio interviews for my book, and I send a letter immediately after each one to the host. Most send an email back that they rarely get one or hear from their interviewees. I use that time to mention that if they need a fill-in that I’m available.

We’ve taught our kids (adults) that message and I know they’ve seen the results for themselves. As you say, it’s not weakness, unless you’re a weak person and then it comes across as whining/begging/other negatives. There’s a way to use manners as a weapon. If someone doesn’t like you or is trying to undermine you, they are cut off at the knees when you’re very polite. There’s nothing for them to do and they don’t know how to respond.